Marriage is an institution and people take vows to stay together forever but several times, marriages do not stay intact and disintegrate. Some people wallow in their pain of a broken relationship and some decide to move on. The first step towards promising future is to start dating. It may be possible that they have young kids too.
“Introducing your boyfriend to your kids”
If you have a serious relationship going on with any person, you will have to introduce him to your kids. Though, you wish to move ahead, you have to take care of your kids and their impressionable minds. It is not necessary that they feel comfortable with your boyfriend. It is very important that you introduce your boyfriend to your kids in such a way that they do not feel threatened.
It is very important to date with a person for at least six months before planning to introduce him to your children. Since you have already suffered from a failed relationship, it is important that you are very much sure about a person before taking things further. This way, your children will also stay safe and secure and will not have to bear the brunt of another broken relationship. Spend some time to know this person and be very sure before involving kids. Introducing a person as your boyfriend one month and explaining your kids why they do not see this person again just after a month may become difficult.
If you have taken divorce from your husband in an amicable manner, it would be a good idea to let your ex-husband know that you are introducing your kids to a person who is relatively new in your life. If you enjoy a respectful relationship with your ex-husband, he may even help you in handling kids.
Most importantly, you need to keep in mind that it is not your life alone but your kids are also involved. So, do not rush to the altar.
When introducing someone to your kids, do not pressurize them to be nice with the person and expect them to behave in a mature way. They are just kids. They are more afraid that you with this new relationship. Give them some time so that they can form their own opinions about the person.
If you have decided to date again, discuss this with your kids and if possible meet with the new person along with your kids. This group setting will help ice to be broken. It is very important that your kids also feel comfortable with this new person entering your life. Meeting in a fun and relaxed atmosphere can also help. It is important that the kids are introduced to your boyfriend in a non threatening atmosphere as this will help them to accept the reality and be more comfortable with the situation.
It is important to take things to the next level at a slow pace. It will be good for you as well as your children. Help them to trust this person as this will make things easier. Keeping in mind all these things will surely help you to consider your kids while embarking on a new journey.